When he can’t get it up because of erectile dysfunction it is time to get ED help with the natural ED solutions of an Erektor device.“He can’t get it up,” now what?

Erectile dysfunction is a problem for women, also

Women who must deal with men who suffer from erectile dysfunction have problems of their own. Besides the obvious lack of sexual fulfillment, the woman feels helpless and frustrated when he can’t get it up. Her initial instincts are to compassionate and understanding when he needs ED help, but what else can a woman do?

Usually he will explain that his sexual difficulty is not the woman’s fault; he will stress that he still finds her attractive and loves her, but for some reason he can’t get it up the way he could before. Both partners are always mystified by the sudden change in his ability and struggle to make sense of it.

It does not take long to learn that no matter how much a woman explains that she does not think less of him when he can’t get it up, he just won’t listen. For the man, needing ED help is not only as a personal failure, but a threat to his sense of masculine self-worth. Even though the anguish runs deep for him, there is something she can do when he can’t get it up.

The first thing to realize is that erectile dysfunction is more often a problem of blood vessel heath, and less so a reflection of how he feels about you or his masculine self-worth. Patiently explain that his ED problem is only showing up because of other issues that have nothing to do with virility or love. Just make sure that neither of you takes it personally when he can’t get it up. Try to set the stage that he sees his occasional or permanent erectile dysfunction as a symptom of another problem, just like sneezing when you get a cold.

ED help strategies when he can’t get it up:

  • Don’t make a big deal of the first time erectile dysfunction happens, but don’t ignore it either. Ignoring his penile failure only allows him to think the worse of the situation, since you have said nothing. Mention he might need some ED help lightly, gently, in a matter-of-fact way, showing you accept him and still care for him.
  • Be patient and helpful to solve the problem in whatever way you know works best for him. Set no time limit and keep the scene happy, as though his erectile dysfunction is just another way to have a playful and imaginative sexual encounter.
  • Help him find the real cause of this problem. Let him know there is a reason he can’t get it up, and it does not have to do so much with his masculine self, as it has to do with other parts of him:
    • Fatigue – doing too much, not sleeping well, working too hard – coax him to get more rest and ease up on the work he does, if possible
    • Stress – bad situation at work, financial problems, and other parts of life create stress that can reduce sexual performance – help him to see how these things are the cause of his erectile dysfunction, and not reduced masculinity
    • Lack of exercise – reduced activity also reduces sexual ability – both of you can go for a walk and get healthier together
    • Drug reaction – so many medications alone or in combination can cause an erectile dysfunction problem – have him talk to his doctor to get his prescriptions changed for something with fewer side-effects
    • Alcohol or smoking – we all know these reduce health in a variety of ways, and sex is just another way that the body suffers – let him know you are concerned about his health, and his erectile dysfunction is just another sign that alcohol and smoking is hurting him
    • Diabetes – this health problem reduces the ability of some systems and tissues of the body to function correctly – if you know or suspect he might be having a problem with his blood sugar, urge him to have it checked out
    • Diet – fatty foods and refined foods also are bad for health, and you must be healthy to participate in good quality sex – bring up the subject again about cutting back on a few offending foods so he will live longer to enjoy sex with you into old age

Men are not accustomed to dealing with problems involving the genitals, as women frequently do throughout most of their lives. When he can’t get it up, it is a big deal because he usually has no problem in this area. You must be his pal, his mother, his lover, his wife and friend during this time.

Erectile dysfunction can bring you closer together if you let it. You should seriously look at the Erektor device as an effective tool to help you to continue enjoying your sexual relations, stay close as a couple, and help him when he needs you most – when he can’t get it up